On October 3rd President Barack Obama and The First Lady, Michelle, celebrated their 22nd Wedding Anniversary. The last few years their anniversary did not come at the grandest of times. But the great thing is the stayed committed to their vows to see yet another anniversary. The President stated “I said, ‘It takes about 10 years to train a man properly, so you got to be patient with him because he will screw up a bunch, but eventually we learn, it just takes a little longer. We are not as smart’. So, Michelle has been very patient with me,” he said. This is very important when it comes to being committed to your spouse and the vows you made to each other. Love is a choice that you must continue to make daily for a prosperous marriage. Patience comes with love because is levels to relationships.
Happily ever after is not a fairytale, it just doesn’t happen over night like it does in the movies. With marriages today lasting about 8 years, according to studies, which is 2 years less than the time needed to actually get it together according to what President Obama says,its a long road. Based on the recently High divorce rates, many couples lose hope at the end of the road. Within two or three years a couple typically gets engaged.Add that to another year or two before the wedding only leaves enough time to find out that you love a person and would like to spend the rest of your life with this person. The first five years after marriage couples will still be a getting to know each other. For this reason studies say the the first 5 to 10 years are the hardest. Because you still have to sort out the details of your lives. There are many issues, and unforeseen things that come about during a marriage that will challenge your commitment to your partner, but it is during those times you must remember the significance of the vows. They state:
“I, ___, take thee, ___, to be my wedded husband/wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God’s holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge thee my faith [or] pledge myself to you.”
While there are other vows these vows remind us there is one that is apart of most union that is never really tapped into by many married couples, God. God, prayer and and communication with Him will help with trying times and will give guidance. Even more important is that God is Love and who better to teach someone how to love than God. As a lover of the fairytales and a believer of God the one thing they both gave me was Hope. This is the one thing Obama promised us during his first election, hope, especially in God allows you to experience Happily Ever After, a love that stands the test of time.
“Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.”
— I Corinthians 13:7
What are your thoughts?